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| You can see the curiosity here, and also how many times he tried to defy "no". |
The past few weeks have been a real test of our patience, and I don’t know whether it’s been because of the move and the strange living situation in the weeks before it, or if it’s because he was sick all last week that it made things worse. Is it because he’s been stuck inside and at home for too long because of the weather and not having a car to get up and go in?
I hope it’s not something that we’ve done or that we’re doing wrong. I hope it’s just something that he’s going through, like maybe he’s just becoming a curious little boy that would rather see what happens if he ignores “no” and does it anyways.
Whatever the reason is, I know it doesn’t help when I get stressed out about it and impatient with him. I know it only makes things worse by being in a bad mood, but there’s nothing that makes me more miserable than when Julian is miserable and naughty.
At this age, you wonder how much they really understand and how often they know the difference between right and wrong. One would think that after dousing your mother two, three, five, six, and seven times with a cup of bathwater that you would get the hint that it’s not the thing to do if you want to finish your bath in a positive way. But who knows, maybe he thinks it’s funny when I end bath time right then and there.
But, it’s a new week and he was very cooperative this morning, so I hope that means he, like I, has decided that yesterday was a terrible day and that no day should ever be that terrible again.
It’s hard to stay mad about the previous day when you’re greeted with “Hi Momma!” and then he slides down the stairs on his butt, telling you all about what must have been a very interesting dream.
It is all those things Emma. We think they accept change because they have to but it does affect them. A move alters his reality so you and Dom just have to stay consistent for him and he will get used to it. Even if he likes all the new things like stairs he still looks for what he knew.
ReplyDeleteBeing sick is scary to a baby--Mommy cannot take away the pain and it is the first time they realize this. Also SADD is real so even if you get him out in the back for 20 minutes it makes a huge difference. If the temp is above 15, go for it. Fresh air is amazing medicine.(sunny days even better for that Vitamin D). But most of all, they go off of us, our feelings and reactions. Imagine this--how excited does he get when you guys cheer for him or clap when he does tricks. He does it for your reactions, to please you. So if you are impatient or unhappy with him it affects just as strongly as the praise--like a slap in the face.
It is hard, very hard, to be patient and loving when they drive us nuts or drain us of energy and patience. That's when we take a step back and remember, they are babies, we are the adults and better equipped to find patience. It is NOT easy and trust me, we all fall even us old veterans. But one look at their faces and just how much they rely on us can help. Because all too soon, yours is the last opinion they will care about!!!
Thanks Debbie! I'm hoping it will be a better week overall and that his runny nose will dissipate and our new place will start feeling more normal to all of us as we get our routine down. We tried going for a walk yesterday and it was fun at first but then he was asking to go back to our house, so maybe we can try again- weather permitting.
DeleteI also need to work on knowing when the moment for teaching or discipline has passed and I should just walk away and let him do what he wants. I'm getting better! They're always changing, so it's hard to keep up haha